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norman auerbach's avatar

Very courageous way of dealing with the reality

Everyone deals with grief differently and it takes time

Lots of Hugs and humor help

All the best

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Vaughan Jones's avatar

In my experience, elephants are usually best removed from rooms. But an elephant this size? I don’t know how you did it. Such courage. My love and hugs to you all. Vx

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Ann's avatar

Most be one of the most difficult conversations you can have, but handled so well . You have an amazing family and you are one hell of a guy. Love to you all and looking forward to seeing you soon where we can put the world to rights over a glass or two . Xxx

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Christine's avatar

This is tough. You are one brave family.

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Heidi Fardell's avatar

💖💖💖💖 love you all sooooooo much. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ xxxxx

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Miffy's avatar

Brave and strong - thanks.

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Charles Elvin's avatar

Thanks Miffy - love ya all - walk that dog !!! xxxx

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Maya Finch's avatar

Charlie, I'm so sorry. What an ongoing test of endurance. Anne told me of your original diagnosis, but I hadn't realised it was such a persistent beast. You've inherited her gift of stark eloquence. It seems somehow fitting that you have taken up the baton of written chronicling, though the impetus is unnecessarily cruel.

Wishing you the best quality of life and precious time.

Maya (née Farley)

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Emma Spellman's avatar

Charlie your courage will live in your boys - they will hold dear your strength, positivity and honesty as they become men. I can't quite word this properly it seems too much to articulate but what I really want to do is give you a giant covid offensive hug, squeeze and share a bottle of something with you and Alex xx

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Charles Elvin's avatar

Thank you Emma - hugs and wine sounds like a very good plan. xxxx

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Clare Leithead's avatar

This is sad. Please eat lobster sandwiches. Always thinking of you and The Wife and The Boys. Keep being brave. Clare x

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Charles Elvin's avatar

Lobster sandwiches... good idea. Loads of love. C. xxxx

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Maureen SumnerSmith's avatar

Charles that was tough, as tough as it can get. It's amazing how much the children will be picking up without you being aware but giving them the chance to talk with you about it will be important for them. Always admiring you and your family and how you are coping and thank you for continuing to share your personal journey.......Maureen

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Charles Elvin's avatar

Hi Maureen - lovely to hear from you. It was - but I am very happy we did it. One day, I think the boys will be too. I follow your adventures on FB (squashed cars and all - that looked nasty!). Stay well - stay happy. C. xxx

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Mark Withers's avatar

My heart aches for you all. What a tough conversation that must have been. Much love from us both to you all.

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Charles Elvin's avatar

Thanks Mark - sort of put workplace 'difficult conversations' in their place. Hope to catch up at some point when we can. Stay well and love to both of you too. C. xxx

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Mark Withers's avatar

A different league ... a whole new ballgame ... incomparable ... choose your metaphor! Would love to catch up when you can.

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Jenny Dahlman's avatar

Oh Charlie, I’m sat on the train to Marylebone reading this with tears running down my face. You are all strong, brave and wonderful. I can’t imagine how hard that conversation was. Sending you all my love. Thinking of you always xxx

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Charles Elvin's avatar

Oh no! I hope I have not made everyone stare at you on the train! We think and talk about you all and I know S stays in touch with A over WhatsApp. Loads of love and hope you are well. XXXX

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Jane Ainley's avatar

The hardest and bravest thing to do x

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Charles Elvin's avatar

Thanks Jane - hope all is well. C. xxx

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John And Laura's avatar

Brutally honest account. Needs sharing more widely as may help other families.

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Charles Elvin's avatar

Feel free to share it. I would love it to help others. xxxx

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