Half Life - 32 – elephant June 4th, 2021 Removing the elephant in the house has made the rooms significantly easier to navigate and breathing easier. By the end of the hardest conversation we have ever had with The Boys the sense of relief and release, and not just that the discussion was over, was tangible. Being told so bluntly that my cancer was terminal was not something either Boy wanted to hear, it took a while before they accepted it was necessary for them to know. Cats get out of bags eventually, we explained, and it was only a matter of time before they would find out and we wanted them to hear it from us and not by accident.
In my experience, elephants are usually best removed from rooms. But an elephant this size? I don’t know how you did it. Such courage. My love and hugs to you all. Vx
Most be one of the most difficult conversations you can have, but handled so well . You have an amazing family and you are one hell of a guy. Love to you all and looking forward to seeing you soon where we can put the world to rights over a glass or two . Xxx
Charlie, I'm so sorry. What an ongoing test of endurance. Anne told me of your original diagnosis, but I hadn't realised it was such a persistent beast. You've inherited her gift of stark eloquence. It seems somehow fitting that you have taken up the baton of written chronicling, though the impetus is unnecessarily cruel.
Wishing you the best quality of life and precious time.
Charlie your courage will live in your boys - they will hold dear your strength, positivity and honesty as they become men. I can't quite word this properly it seems too much to articulate but what I really want to do is give you a giant covid offensive hug, squeeze and share a bottle of something with you and Alex xx
Charles that was tough, as tough as it can get. It's amazing how much the children will be picking up without you being aware but giving them the chance to talk with you about it will be important for them. Always admiring you and your family and how you are coping and thank you for continuing to share your personal journey.......Maureen
Oh Charlie, I’m sat on the train to Marylebone reading this with tears running down my face. You are all strong, brave and wonderful. I can’t imagine how hard that conversation was. Sending you all my love. Thinking of you always xxx
Very courageous way of dealing with the reality
Everyone deals with grief differently and it takes time
Lots of Hugs and humor help
All the best
In my experience, elephants are usually best removed from rooms. But an elephant this size? I don’t know how you did it. Such courage. My love and hugs to you all. Vx
Most be one of the most difficult conversations you can have, but handled so well . You have an amazing family and you are one hell of a guy. Love to you all and looking forward to seeing you soon where we can put the world to rights over a glass or two . Xxx
This is tough. You are one brave family.
💖💖💖💖 love you all sooooooo much. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ xxxxx
Brave and strong - thanks.
Charlie, I'm so sorry. What an ongoing test of endurance. Anne told me of your original diagnosis, but I hadn't realised it was such a persistent beast. You've inherited her gift of stark eloquence. It seems somehow fitting that you have taken up the baton of written chronicling, though the impetus is unnecessarily cruel.
Wishing you the best quality of life and precious time.
Maya (née Farley)
Charlie your courage will live in your boys - they will hold dear your strength, positivity and honesty as they become men. I can't quite word this properly it seems too much to articulate but what I really want to do is give you a giant covid offensive hug, squeeze and share a bottle of something with you and Alex xx
This is sad. Please eat lobster sandwiches. Always thinking of you and The Wife and The Boys. Keep being brave. Clare x
Charles that was tough, as tough as it can get. It's amazing how much the children will be picking up without you being aware but giving them the chance to talk with you about it will be important for them. Always admiring you and your family and how you are coping and thank you for continuing to share your personal journey.......Maureen
My heart aches for you all. What a tough conversation that must have been. Much love from us both to you all.
Oh Charlie, I’m sat on the train to Marylebone reading this with tears running down my face. You are all strong, brave and wonderful. I can’t imagine how hard that conversation was. Sending you all my love. Thinking of you always xxx
The hardest and bravest thing to do x
Brutally honest account. Needs sharing more widely as may help other families.